What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it’s fame and money, you’re not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you’re mistaken. As the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life.

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  1. you know what, sugar and alcohol kill more than loneliness. this study is bullshit. thank god, i was not accepted to Harvard, look what they are doing. what a joke.

  2. If i had to redo my life, i’d look after my health first, then a lasting relationship second.
    the rest will fall into place.

  3. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin." (Bukhari)

  4. ‘Why do you creeps keep studying us uninteresting people?’. That’s a stupid question. You don’t eat if you don’t work, and for those MDs they can’t get laid if they don’t have their liscense. No hot chick wanna bang a bunch of boring hookworms.

  5. min 11:21 , what about me? im a mess I don’t have any healthy relationship, not even with my family. thanks for coming to my ted talk

  6. Has anyone considered that people who are richer, more conscientious, and generally more successful are more likely to have a lot of healthy relationships in their lives? Therefore, a generally successful life and self-care would be the largest drivers of happiness

  7. once again talk for the dumb masses. no speak of morals self discipline and accomplishment. which is much more important but not popular for the failed public. fu

  8. I feel lonely. Yeah I got my family but mainly feels like it’s forced because I have to live with them. I don’t really feel like I can ever emotionally bond with anybody. I tried to talk to people but they just never want to listen. Well, I guess I’ll die earlier then for being lonely.

  9. Al-Bukhari and Muslim reported a hadith in which Anas Ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) said, I heard Allah’s Messenger saying, “Whoever would like his provision in this world to be increased and his life span to be extended let him uphold the ties of kinship”.   «من سره أن يبسط له في رزقه، وأن ينسأ له في أثره، فليصل رحمه» متفق عليه  

    This 75 years study has clearly supported and proved the truth of the statement that over 14 hundred years ago The Prophet Muhammad, (Peace Be Upon Him) has told.

    Or perhaps just another perfect coincidence…

  10. A question: do you hear the laugher at the end of the video?
    I have been watching Ted talks recently and heard a lot of laughters in the video where I didn’t find anything funny. I am wondering if TED uses fake laughing sound.

  11. Why were only men studied? How can you take a study of only one gender and apply it a different gender? Just from that, I would say this video is for men only and women have been left out completely.

  12. So the quality of relationships matter, but what if I just have a small group of close friends and family that i feel comfortable talking with and actually don’t feel lonely, cause in my mind, it is better to have a small group of people that you can resonate with than have huges groups of friends and be unable to relate with them
    [i’m talking about friends group, not communities]

  13. I would like to tell you something.
    This reason concerns: Why we cannot live as we want.
    We must work for the system, study, do everything for the sake of the system
    Why is our happiness in pieces of paper ??!?
    After all, people simply cannot see the world in any other way. They just live like everyone else.
    And why do we even need to study in schools? Maybe everything is simple, the system just hides everything from us.
    For example, why do people live only 70-80 years? Maybe the whole thing is not to pay huge money to centenarians? All people live only as the system wants us to do, well, I don’t argue with this if people lived as they wanted, wouldn’t work, would consume all land resources, then we would die out
    I mean, you have to conclude yourself and change your view of the world and start living as you like

  14. Anything that isn’t associated with society is life. The only good thing about society is to live isolated in a house.

  15. 1. Enough money (the actual amount depends on every person). Enough money to have shelter and food on the table. Enough money to save a little every month and to provide for you and yours. That’s all. I’d say in America you can achieve that with $2,000 per month. Yes. You really do not need that much.
    2. Intellectual curiosity.
    3. Aesthetic curiosity.
    4. Love
    5. Pursuing your passions

  16. True. Sometimes no money for the basics at one time, such as food/housing/medicine at the same time, coupled with no family or people to care about them, brings misery. I only wish for enough money to buy my own food, pay my own rent, get my medicine, but mostly, but be able to take a bus to places where I could be with people would make me feel like I had everything in the world.

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